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[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡ 33 insightful - 2 fun33 insightful - 1 fun34 insightful - 2 fun -  (4 children)

I honestly don't understand why masc4masc and femme4femme are so criticized in our own community... Jesus. Just let us be. In the gay community it seems like gay men tell masc4masc they have internalized homophobia; in the lesbian community we're accused of being "shallow" and being fixated with the "femininity performance", which contributes to the women oppression or whatever the fuck.

People, just be happy and fuck whoever you want and no need to give explanations to anyone. THAT is true liberation. We're clearly not there yet. Everyone has different tastes and preferences.

[–]GoValidateYourselfuseful lesbian 18 insightful - 1 fun18 insightful - 0 fun19 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

100%. Femme4femme gets criticized for being fixated on "feminine performance", and butch/femme relationships also get criticized for "heteronormativity" and "trying to look like straight couples". Myself I am more "futch"/tomboy, and I like women that look like pretty boys. I have been called bisexual by TRAs for only dating other androgynous women. Ffs. Whatever we do we can't win, so just fuck everyone's feelings and be yourself.

[–]xanditAGAB (Assigned Gay at Birth) 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

called bisexual by TRAs for only dating other androgynous women. Ffs.

this is logical in their thinking, because we are supposed to accept sexuality is based on gender.

[–]GoValidateYourselfuseful lesbian 6 insightful - 4 fun6 insightful - 3 fun7 insightful - 4 fun -  (1 child)

Yeah. Which is why I used to be "agender nonbinary" and "pansexual" despite only dating women. My teen-20 year old self was so fucking cringey! XD

[–]xanditAGAB (Assigned Gay at Birth) 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

at least you made it out of the matrix lol