Possibly don’t even have any friends at all anymore, because they might abhor me if they knew I agree with pretty much everything Rowling said. Have to be careful to remain extremely impersonal at work.

I completely relate to this, and know several other women in the exact same boat as you. It is definitely jarring and unsettling to see longtime friends who you have a deep bond with going off the rails in support of this TRA shit, especially the ones cursing Rowling. It makes one realize how many people are 1) extremely susceptible to propaganda, 2) don't give a shit about women's rights and safety, and/or 3) cowards.

I wish I could tell you with 100% certainty that this will all blow over, and give a timeframe, but I can't. In the meantime, try and stay friends with the ones you really care about, and try and just avoid TRA topics with them. If they try and bring them up, you can make an excuse or change the subject. If you trust them, you can say what you really feel, and show them the essay she's written, point out the things you agree with, and try and stay logical about it. I've noticed TRA arguments are either vague platitudes, slogans, or short. Explaining yourself logically and clearly, without using the phrases "terf" or "radical feminist" or "drop the t", tends to reach people better. Sometimes I think about the quote "you can fool some people sometimes, but you can't fool all the people all the time", and it reminds me that this malafide trend will end eventually.

If you need a place to vent, we're all here and we agree with you.