Wait, I thought "he/him lesbians" were lesbians that didn't care what people called them.

I remember seeing a documentary a few years ago and it was about lesbians in New York who went by "he/him" but, it wasn't necessarily by choice. They were just very masculine/butch women and people would constantly mis-gender them (if I remember correctly, it was almost always by mistake). They got tired of correcting people if someone accidentally called them "sir" or "he" so they basically just said "Fuck it. I don't care anymore. Whatever" and they just let it be. They didn't get mad if people preceived them as men because they knew that they were women and that was enough.

This whole battle of the pronouns never ceases to amaze me because their usage is entirely based off of an individuals perception of others. It should not be treated as an end all be all for how we see ourselves. If your entire self worth is dependant upon whether or not someone calls you "she", "he", or "they" then you probably have some unresolved issues and should see a therapist.