How do I tell my gay friend dating a transman that he is bisexual?

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[–]BiHorror 5 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 2 fun -  (4 children)

He might be homoflexible. Either way, depending on he is (is he pretty chill or a rabid TRA?) , you could explain to him why he isn't gay as he thinks he is. Or let him go.

[–]jiljol 20 insightful - 2 fun20 insightful - 1 fun21 insightful - 2 fun -  (3 children)

"Homoflexible" lol what is this, the mid 00s? Give me a break, there is nothing "homo" about being attracted to the opposite sex. This is bisexuality/"Kinsey 5-4", plain and simple. It's homophobic BS to imply that homosexuality can be flexible.

[–]BiHorror 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

It's not considered homophobic (nor biphobia), it's simply just someone who normally dates the same sex but finds opposite sex attraction happening at rare times. That's why it's not called homosexuality, it's called homoflexibility. Same goes for being heteroflexible. They're the 1-5s on the Kinsey Scale. They have their own label, nothing wrong with that as it can be used accurately self describe, and bisexuals have their own. I wouldn't force them to call themselves or see them as bisexual when they barely show attraction to the opposite/same sex. Don't like it? That's personal.

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[–]lostinreverieMy ovaries are transphobic 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I wouldn't force them to call themselves or see them as bisexual

You say that as though it’s a bad thing to be bisexual. If someone is capable of being attracted to both sexes, even if only slightly, they’re bisexual. That’s not positive or negative; it’s just a fact. Anyone who truly wants to avoid the bisexual label is free to do so, but it won’t change their sexuality.

[–]BiHorror 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

You say that as though it’s a bad thing to be bisexual

I'm not but I'm not gonna consider someone who gets hetero/homo attraction once in a while "bisexual." That's why I'm okay with them having their own label for times where they do get "flexible." They're not bisexual. Just as chasers (GAMPs) aren't gay/bi but form of heterosexuality with a fetish.

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