DiscussionWe've had threads on asexuality, what about demisexuality?

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[–]Mertion 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

That's an interesting point. Yes, those type of relationships do indeed exist but the ones I know don't identify themselves as asexual. They just identify themselves as gay.

Would it be useful for gay men are not interested in anal sex to call themselves asexual? I am not really sure. It's true that if you call yourself gay, most people would assume that you are interested in anal sex but at the same time, would it not be the same problem if you call yourself asexual? Just the other way around? I really don't know the answer.

I just believe that all these labels (other than straight, gay and bisexual) are not necessary, you can just say that you are a gay man that is not interested in anal sex.

[–]justasking918273Ally 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Not OP but when I, as a non-homosexual person, think of what homosexual people might do I don't think of anal sex or anything involving penetration necessarily. However, when I think of hetero sex I think of PIV sex first. I guess what these people might call themselves depends on what they think the expectation is for what types of sexual interaction are likely to occur.

[–]8bitgay 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

In the end of the day I don't really care, I don't wanna police how people feel about themselves, how they define themselves. I don't understand asexuality, but if someone identifies as asexual that's their deal, not mine. It just bothers me when it's straight asexual people claiming to be LGBT, or doing the whole "I'm more oppressed than you" thing. It also bothers me when people have such a limited view on sexuality that anyone that isn't obsessed with sex becomes part of the asexual spectrum.

And it also becomes a personal issue when an asexual guy gets into me. It's a bit frustrating when it seems like he's a nice guy, but in this situation we don't have compatible sexualities.

Talking about that, once there was this asexual guy getting quite invasive asking me if I was top or bottom. For someone who supposedly doesn't feel sexual attraction he was quite demanding about his sexual preferences haha