Most of the time it is more like "there must be a man - relationship can't be without penises" or "at least there is dildo!". Society still consider women as commodity. And lesbian is the biggest "sin" women can ever made - not just saying "No", but saying "No" to men on such fundamental level. And the worst part of it is that our "No" is not even our choice, it is biological "No", we can't be other way, even if we really really want to. That is why the more misogynistic movement is - the more they are attacking lesbians, as being lesbian is like personal attack on them. That is why so big focus of misogynic trans movement is on lesbians and on destroying lesbians in any possible case - our spaces, word for us, our sites and trying to coerce us to "try a girldick".