Is Asexuality a sexuality or not?

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[–]HelloMomo 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

It's not talked about as much, but I've actually heard several stories of lesbians who thought they were asexual before realizing they're homosexual. It's not too different from the "I thought I was bi at first" story, which you hear pretty commonly as well — just, y'know, taking the other route to get there.

And to this day, I think the lack of cross sex attraction is in many ways a bigger deal than our same sex attraction. In the currently political landscape, it's our right not to date males that's under fire. In The Second Sex, Simone de Beauvoir wrote:

What must be explained in the female homosexual is thus not the positive aspect of her choice but the negative side: she is not characterized by her preference for women but by the exclusiveness of this preference.

(although to be fair, that might've just been Simone de Beauvoir being bi, and that being her lens through which she viewed things)

Historically, gay men were attacked for being with men. There was no female equivalent of the sodomy laws; lesbian sex/relationships/anything often wasn't considered "real" in the first place. Across history up to today, I think lesbians lack of cross-sex behavior was more "disruptive" of society than our same-sex behavior.

[–]VioletRemiCat, homosexual one 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Most of the time it is more like "there must be a man - relationship can't be without penises" or "at least there is dildo!". Society still consider women as commodity. And lesbian is the biggest "sin" women can ever made - not just saying "No", but saying "No" to men on such fundamental level. And the worst part of it is that our "No" is not even our choice, it is biological "No", we can't be other way, even if we really really want to. That is why the more misogynistic movement is - the more they are attacking lesbians, as being lesbian is like personal attack on them. That is why so big focus of misogynic trans movement is on lesbians and on destroying lesbians in any possible case - our spaces, word for us, our sites and trying to coerce us to "try a girldick".