There are two camps that need to get over themselves shut the hell up and everyone else suffering in the crossfire. These two loud camps are the screeching fems that call everyone homophobic for not wanting to be a drag queen and the overly defensive mascs that puke every time they see a rainbow. While these two examples are small in numbers, this sub should know all too well that a loud minority can control the narrative better than a silent majority.

Frankly, there is no single way that femininity is treated. Some camps encourage or demand it, some others discourage or forbid it, and then there is everything in between. Personally, I am not the most masculine male out there and one conversation with me will likely tip off anyone paying attention that I'm gay, but I do like potential friends and partners to not be 24/7 drag queens or over the top about everything. I'd probably not approach anyone who regularly wears noticable makeup and glitter (mainly to avoid the craft herpes) but I definitely won't walk away from someone who just isn't "straight acting" or "straight passing"