A post on r/me_irlgbt about breaking up with someone when they reveal they are trans. Comments are prime peak material

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[–]ArthnoldManacatsaman🇬🇧🌳🟦 38 insightful - 11 fun38 insightful - 10 fun39 insightful - 11 fun -  (1 child)

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But trans people are amazing. They have the guarantee of some funny and sad stories, and they always have a really deep personality. My boyfriend is the most amazing man I've ever met and he's trans. You'll find someone who loves you for you, not who they try to make you.

Literally everyone in the dating pool will have funny or sad stories. Similarly, most people are actually three-dimensional. Shocker.

Fuckem, you're stunning and are brave as fuck for living your reality. End of story.

This but ironically.

I’m not actually transgender (cuz I don’t really feel like questioning it yet) so I can’t relate as much as others here but if someone can’t see you for your true gender, then you’re better off without them as a partner. Just stay strong and you’ll find someone who will see you for you.

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When I came out to my current partner as NB, her response was "I'm pan so all this changes is your pronouns. I love you." I sobbed for like an hour. My last serious partner before that dumped me for being bi so I really thought it would go the way of this comic.

My eyes may never roll back so they face forwards again.

Funny. People like colorful unusual Pokémon. But not colorful unusual humans. :

Caught any cool Pokémon? Oh I found Tramsvee! I had to throw 56897 great balls at it but I finally caught it!!! Look it knows transform! It goes from one gender to another when it evolves!!!!!! It has change attack it can use attacks from both genders ohhhh so exciting!!!!

I have a friend who’s trans. meh. Isn’t that against the Bible or something??

Again, the fuck?

Having a genital preference is perfectly fine. Refusing to date someone just because they are trans alone is not, imo.

So I can refuse to date you because you don't have the right genitals? Cool. Glad we figured that out.

Jesus wept.

[–]8bitgay 27 insightful - 1 fun27 insightful - 0 fun28 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Fuckem, you're stunning and are brave as fuck for living your reality. End of story.

The funny thing about this is that it applies to you (the trans reader) but not to them (the cis people). They are not stunning and brave for living their reality of not feeling attracted to you. If a gay man doesn't feel attracted to transmen he isn't simply living his reality and end of story, they'll keep dragging the story until it goes their way.

This isn't even just a TRA thing by the way. This is a problem I often have with internet dating advices, because it's based on supporting the reader "you" and criticizing "them", often in conflicting ways. A point I've seen often, for example, is that "you" don't need to date anyone that doesn't fit your standards, but "they" are evil if they reject you for not fitting their standards.

Having a genital preference is perfectly fine. Refusing to date someone just because they are trans alone is not, imo.

I wish they just stopped with this lie of saying genital "preferences" are fine and with the gaslighting of pretending they never try to pressure us. If our "preferences" were really fine for them that thread wouldn't exist.