yaoi is bizarre (even just scratching the surface of it). the "feminine" type ones are basically girls without breasts, and for the most part the characters act, think, behave like women do (as stories written by women for women that's no surprise). The relationships depicted would probably have more in common with a heterosexual relationship, or a lesbian one (where they're both feminine) than a real life gay one. It always stumped me that none of these girls would go from reading bara (which is written for a gay male audience by gay men) to being trans men. I guess the men in bara actually look like men because they're built, have body hair, and dad bods and I would assume actually act like irl men. It seems to me the yaoi is more a function of women exploring female sexuality, but just without women's bodies and the more superficial aspects of femininity. It's sad these girls mistake this for actual reality or a representation of gay male relationships. That, and a lot of them would be autoandrophilic.