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[–]zerosis 23 insightful - 1 fun23 insightful - 0 fun24 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

For me, if I had to think of a specific moment, I think it was when one of my trans friends outright told everyone at the breakfast meeting we were at that a lesbian not dating people with dicks is transphobic and invalidating, and vice versa for gay men/vaginas. I just had this 'whoahh, hold the fuck up' kind of mental reaction, and it all spiraled from there. I used to be so supportive of the TRA movement, and to be honest part of me wishes I could just go back to that. It was easier to just go along with it, I wasn't in danger of losing my family, friends, sanity, everything. Now I've seen and realized things that I can't ignore, and I have to shut up and pretend like I'm okay with the T completely taking over my community. Fuck. I hate 2020 so much.

[–]fuckupaddamsBisexual Terve[S] 18 insightful - 1 fun18 insightful - 0 fun19 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

It's funny how as a gay man you're now the one who has the toe the line and be afraid of losing loved ones for being a "bigot"

[–]zerosis 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It's terrifying and exhausting. I feel like shit for dismissing the concerns of lesbians dealing with this very thing for so long before this.