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[–]haveanicedaytoo💗💜💙 7 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

if you had found this document in some context where it wasn't being presented as flawed,

That's actually the perspective I had when I initially found the document because I Googled it right after reading the OP and before reading the comment I replied to above, so I came upon it with clueless eyes, and it had the endorsement of the late bloomer sub, so I had no reason to doubt it. I honestly thought I was about to read a legendary tome of lesbian secrets, and then I'm reading and it's like....................... "Yeah gurl, you can totally like male characters and be attracted to them and still be lesbian..." Like... WHAT????

It took me about two minutes to go from "Ooh, I found a lesbian treasure!" to "Ew! I stepped in some doo-doo!" That's why I came back here like "Hey... Um... Lesbians? What do you think about this?" because it's like... What even is the difference between a lesbian and a bisexual who chooses to be female-partner-only if everything in that document is the real truth? In my head, a lesbian is a woman who has neverevereveverever been sexually attracted to a male EVER. Not even once. (Except maybe by mistake/confusion/duress? IDK, I'm willing to consider extreme-scenario loopholes, since I'm not a lesbian and don't feel comfortable speaking over them.) But to me, it's extremely black and white what a lesbian is. There is no grey. This entire document is grey grey grey. And it is written in a specific way as to open the gate wiiiiide open to let all the self-identifiers in.

But I'm 40 with lots of IRL experience so it's easy for me to see through the bullshit. I am so scared for these young girls who are reading this and gobbling it up!

EDIT - The new list you linked - hooooly shit. A lot of those don't even sound like bisexual women, they sound like straight women who are tired of having horrible sex with man-babies who probably don't even wash their asses properly after using the toilet. There is an epidemic of worthless undateable men out there making straight women miserable, just go to /r/femaledatingstrategy to see what I mean. (And gay/bi bros, I'm not talking about you or about all the men, this is just a very virulent strain of domesticated fuckboy.)

[–]Constantine[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

This perfectly encapsulates all of the concerns I had about the doc. I'm very glad I came here. I mean honestly, a straight woman in an unfulfilling relationship with the wrong man could end up thinking she's a lesbian based on that thing.

edit: spelling