She didn't even realize she was bisexual until two seconds ago. THIS is exactly what I mean when I talk about "Confused bisexuals." Now this barely-bi woman thinks she's entitled to write about gay boys (not even BI boys, which, oddly enough, I'd be personally okay with, though it's not up to me to be okay with it) she is obviously a closeted yaoi/slash fan, who felt the need to write a story about cute boys doing cute things together, and there weren't any gay men on this entire planet who could write that story so she had to be the one to do it, what a hero.

If you can't tell, I'm annoyed.

It's extremely convenient for her to realize she's bi, when she's married and already knows she will never come face-to-puss with another woman. I'm not saying she's lying because actually she is a perfect example of my "Confused bisexuals" wall-of-text I wrote the other day here:

https://saidit.net/s/LGBDropTheT/comments/6aja/an_idea_with_questions/oe0u

But I do feel like there is a HUUUUGE difference between her and a bisexual woman who's known she was bi her whole life and actually dated and had sex with both men and women. (And please nobody feel bad if this doesn't describe you and you're still bi, there's a million different ways to be bi.)

An analogy I can give is this. Imagine a girl from Korea who was adopted as a baby, doesn't speak a lick of Korean, grew up in an all-white environment, completely removed from Korean culture blah blah blah. She is going to have a unique life experience that isn't going to be like the typical Korean-American experience at all. So when she decides to write a novel about Korean-Americans and it's all kim-chi and K-pop, and plastic surgery and other cliches, and on-top of that, getting a lot of things wrong and offending other Korean people, what do you even say in that situation? Here is a woman who knows fuck-all about being bisexual, writing novels about it. I'm basing this solely on her saying she just realized she's bi at 37. Not the fact that she's never been with a woman. I know a lot of bi women/men have never been with the same sex. That's not the issue. This feels like she did a DNA test and found out she's half Korean and decided to write a novel about being a Korean-American girl just based on that. It feels really hollow/shallow.

Here is what she knows about: Staying in the closet her entire life and not even realizing she was bi. (If she is actually bi.)

Here is the elephant in the room: The reason she had to come out was not because readers had a problem with her being straight, it's because they had a problem with her being straight and writing gay, lesbian, and bisexual characters in unrealistic ways that didn't feel authentic. Saying "Well, I'm bisexual too, so there!" doesn't really fix the situation that those characters still suck and they're still unrealistic and don't feel like real gay/bi/lesbian teens/adults.