DiscussionShould asexuals in gay relationships be in LGB?

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[–]SeasideLimbs 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

The problem with asexuals is that the root cause can be a number of different things (the ace community itself agrees with that) and the exact cause influences whether I would consider such a person LGB. If you fall in love with people of the same sex, truly love them and want to be with them, I'd say you're 100% gay (or lesbian or bi.) If, on the other hand, you're messed up due to some trauma which has nuked your libido and crossed your wires so you're now looking to be in same-sex relationships because they are less painful since they don't remind you as much of your abuse, then, no. In such a case, I wouldn't consider that person LGB. Nor if it was due to fetishization, gaytrending, or whatever else reason somebody might have to be in a same-sex relationship other than genuine attraction. That's just me. If you feel actual love toward people of the same sex and want to be with them, you're LGB, sexual intercourse or no.

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I think asexuals who parter bisexual or same sex are already covered under LGB and don’t need a category. Plenty of Ls and Bs and Gs have sex trauma and whatnot complicating their sex lives, same with heterosexuals. I think what matters the most is potential to be same sex partnered in the world, because people can’t tell when they see a same sex couple if they are having sex. Lol. Skip over to late bloomer lesbians. Loads of straight couples not sexing anymore.