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[–]v4gisil 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I'm a straight woman, and this is something I could never wrap my head around. I was exposed to weird fandoms of stuff like yaoi as a teenager and I remember hearing about how so many straight women were supposedly into gay porn, and I couldn't relate to any of it. At all. Why would men who couldn't possibly reciprocate my interest get my motor running? Further, finding out a guy is gay irl instantaneously kills any desire I may have had for him, like my brain immediately puts him in an "off-limits" box.

This isn't helpful or insightful, but this whole phenomenon of other straight people fetishizing gay men and lesbians just really skeeves me out and confuses me. I do not get it.

[–]artetolife[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

This comes up a lot in discussions on gay forums - some of us NEED the possibility of reciprocation to be attracted to someone, but it seems like most people don't, or at least they can convince themselves that there's a chance that they can "turn" the object of their affection.