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[–]SilverWolf 19 insightful - 1 fun19 insightful - 0 fun20 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I'm sorry that you've been put into this situation, it really isn't fair to you. As much as it will hurt, I think it might be best for you to just end things with him. It sounds like he isn't going to stop this, and if he was to fully transition, it wouldn't just effect him, it would effect you too, since you wouldn't be allowed to say you are straight anymore.

[–]buhnahnuhbr3ad[S] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Thanks. I honestly didn't think this would be the situation I am in years ago when I first started dating him. I kinda think about "what if I knew before then" would I still even try to pursue him and I honestly don't really know. It's scary to think about leaving him and even he is petrified about the idea since he genuinely feels I'm the center of his life; the only person that reaffirms his masculinity and male identity. I more than ever want him to get therapy for this, because I'm starting to believe this isn't a gender identity issue, it's a self esteem issue.