This remains really interesting to me. This person believes anyone who pushes against the gender norms of their time is queer. And that does huge injustice to actual gay/lesbian/bisexual/pan/vaguely not straight enough for it to matter people.

Many years ago I was reading some feminist theory and I came across an article where a lesbian was defined as a woman who did not have any emotkonally dependent relationships with men, something like that. Whatever the definition was I thought gosh, as a single woman I too count as a lesbian. I mentioned it to someone on the same course and she very kindly pointed out that it was a no. It was long ago and I can't remember the language she used but I came away feeling like yeah unless you fall in love sexually with women this is not the name to use for yourself and sexuality and oppression for it are not theoretical.