This is a thought that occurred to me and I wanted to run it by people here to see what you think.
I went to a girls’ school with very privileged classmates. Even the ones without loads of money weren’t so much poor as they were lower-middle-class. The faculty was very emphatic about how we as girls could accomplish what we wanted, shouldn’t let ourselves be held back by stereotypes, and things like that. I truly did not encounter anyone telling me I couldn’t do something because they was a girl, or even subtly discouraging me. I don’t think it was until I had kids that I encountered anyone telling me I needed to act in a sex-based role. If you’re from a certain upper-middle-class, highly educated culture, “women shouldn’t do that” isn’t something you necessarily run into a lot. Your family has money for you to do the things other women might be told they shouldn’t do.
Having kids was a big smack in the face to me. For the first time, I was supposed to act as a mother - and mothers are female, so I was supposed to act “like a woman.” Ruin your mental health so you can breastfeed? Society: “Well, mothers are supposed to sacrifice for their children, so what did you expect? It’s not all about you anymore!” Regardless of social class, money, or education, mothers are expected by a lot of people to sacrifice everything for their children. And sex differences become very clear. No matter how anyone feels, the baby’s father is not going to be pregnant, give birth, or breastfeed.
A lot of women I know who are very vocal about trans activism have two things in common: they come from the same privileged group of people I did, and they don’t have kids. They work for places that prioritize advancing women’s careers, and the men in their lives are aware that it’s a social faux pas to disagree with liberal feminist views. They live in nice neighborhoods where they don’t worry about being raped on their way home, and they’re able to go for days without stark reminders that they’re not just people, they’re female people. Aside from menstruation, there are very few female-specific things in their lives. So they’re disconnected from how much influence female biology has over other women’s lives.
Thoughts?
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