I live in a Southern European country, pretty macho although it tries to sell itself as "equal" (compared to other Southern European countries, that is). Anyway - sexism and misogyny is still rampant here and women are expected to look super feminine all the time: hair done, nail salon visits weekly, waxing off all of your body hair, looking tan, dressing "prettily" etc.
(I won't mention "scantily" because when temperatures often reach over +35C [that's about a 100F for you fellow U.S. peeps!] at summer, one tends to wear as little as possible for obvious reasons.)
Anyway, that was just a bit of a background. When I first arrived here about a decade ago I recall there was this yearly "Carnival" thing (think of Mardi Gras) and people would put on a costume and get wasted - as one does. And what did guys dress up as? Women. No joke, almost all of them would dress up as women - or should I say, just slap on an ugly wig, a dress, and speak in a "womanly" high pitched, mocking voice (you know the type) whilst making fun of "feminine traits" (you can probably imagine this as well, the list is too long to write down...)
And this was well before the current gender ideology had even been heard of here.
I found this completely bizarre at first, but very soon just thought it was really offensive. So this was the time of the year where you could dress up as Kermit the frog or Dracula or whatever... And you dress up as a terrible caricature of a woman and then mock the hell out of presumed feminine habits and manners. Coming from a prettttyyy equal Nordic country originally I found this behaviour odd to say the least. Why did men feel (and still do) the need to do this? To get in touch with their "feminine" side? Pfft, I think not. While the country itself is hellbent on being seen as some new flagship of equality, the regular Joe still thinks women are some idiotic, screeching make-up addicts who throw hissy fits because their spouse didn't get them the right coloured roses for anniversary etc. etc. etc.
(I don't want to conflate the two but it's a little bit like every year all the white people would put on blackface and then merrily make fun of every stupid, horrible, racist stereotype they could come up with...)
Also, when I've been catcalled and then shouted back "bitch!" to the guy who leered at me, their instant reaction has been super aggressive - compared to when I just yell "shut up, moron" or something. Every time. Being a woman here is still kind of a semi-joke and being called a slur meant for women is the most terrible insult ever. (I could almost see their ballsacks shrivel when I hurl these kinds of words back at them...) Once I also called an ex-boyfriend "a fancy lady" because he was lying on the couch looking like Rose "FrEnCh giRL" from goddamn Titanic, and I thought it was funny looking... And he dared to start yelling at me for INSULTING HIM. After the initial shock I gave him a lengthy, heated lecture of how much that reaction actually insulted me - like me calling him a "lady" was such a terrible, awful, soul-ripping slur! As if being a woman, or being called one, was the most fucking offensive thing he had ever heard! Jesus wept.
So - I would like to hear more from women and men who are from countries that are infamous for their inherent misogyny. Does this happen everywhere? Is it the same e.g. in Latin America? What are your thoughts on why this still happens so much? What are the root causes and is there any real hope for future generations (of men) to be less misogynistic? What the hell is going on?
Even after a decade I am baffled and although I do have some guesses/theories, they are a bit shallow as I haven't lived most of my life in this country - and I don't want to start making uninformed guesses.
This is especially curious to me nowadays when the supposed "womanhood" (or rather, creating a disgusting caricature of it - talking about TiM's) is now something guys WANT to be. WTF! Wasn't it supposed to be the worst? Or is this whole gender circus happening mainly in countries that are less "traditional" (read: less conservative and more equal)? Is this "I feel like a woman" shit some weird pushback towards societies where women are suddenly no more in such a weak position - and guys who feel insecure/personally attacked by this then try to colonize the entire womanhood as they cannot actually handle being equals?
Bit of a ramble, hope I managed to make some sense. Thanks in advance to anyone who had the patience to read and/or reply :)
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