Mom writes about having a trans child, whole article has a /thathappened vibe

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[–]SpatOuttheKoolaid 20 insightful - 1 fun20 insightful - 0 fun21 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

This child was told because she was interested in stereotypical boys hobbies and clothing she must be a boy. Total bullshit a first grader would organically get into the bathroom debate, unless some adult introduced the concept she's not a girl. Let her be a girl who wears boys clothes and likes spiderman. God forbid she grows up to be a lesbian. Of course, if this parent had a tomboy who was encouraged to be herself (like every other generation), she couldn't write blogs that make her look like woke hero mom of the year (and probably get in on the marketing of her trans kid).

[–]Badmammajamma[S] 5 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I went to the original Star Wars movies with my dad when I was a child. I was super into ET. I love alien movies. Guess I must secretly be a man then.

[–]kahlua 19 insightful - 1 fun19 insightful - 0 fun20 insightful - 1 fun -  (6 children)

This whole article, if it is real, makes me feel deeply uncomfortable with how this woman has instilled such an unhealthy understanding of sex in her daughter so early on. She's not a boy, she's reacting to the limitations and expectations imposed upon us for being female.

"Shopping there felt deceitful, wrong, like a lie." Seriously!? I find the association forced between gender, sex, and clothing so ridiculous. My husband and I swap clothes all the time, sometimes he wears my flannels, t-shirts, trousers and overshirts, sometimes I wear his, big deal. Literally nobody cares, I've never received a look for being in the men's section of Uniqlo or Zara or Savers.

[–]Badmammajamma[S] 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Also, it’s so annoying that clothes preferences are somehow proof of a person’s gender. I have regularly worn men’s clothes until my hips and ass got too big to do so. I wear men’s shoes still. I have never once wanted to be a guy. It’s so fucking stupid that children are receiving this diagnosis because they don’t/do want to wear pink. How would we know if a child was trans without the color pink? Because I see far too much of this argument: a girl doesn’t like pink, so she’s a boy. A boy does like pink so he’s a girl. This is 1st grade logic if I ever heard it.

[–]materialrealityplz 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I've never received a look for being in the men's section of Uniqlo or Zara or Savers.

besides, women shop for men/boys all the time even if not for themselves putting themselves in that section. No big deal.

[–]Badmammajamma[S] 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Her language strikes me as someone who has a personality disorder. I think there are kids out there who are suffering from a form of medical child abuse by parents who push for this. I think there’s more Munchausen by Proxy/factitious disorder with kids who are transitioning at young ages than people may realize.

[–]SpatOuttheKoolaid 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It's narcissistic parenting. I had the unfortunate experience of being raised by a narcissist (fortunately I was born decades before this trend), and so much of this is textbook, just now channeled into the kid being "trans" (it could be channeled into the kid being an academic genius, sports star, child actor, something else marketable.....but this is a new superspecial woke way of exploitation for a new generation)

[–]worried19 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Look up Coy Mathis. He's not the family's first "special" child.

[–]worried19 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It can be a problem in more conservative areas. I used to get weird looks in the men's section at Walmart. Doesn't happen as much anymore now that I live in a small city.

This mom obviously has unhealthy ideas about femininity and masculinity which are set to cause irreversible damage to this young child's life.

[–]PumpkinSpiceVagina 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

This whole article makes me want to bang my head against the wall but holy fuck, this part:

Twenty minutes later, we settled down on the same couch, my husband on one side of Isabel, me on the other.

"Your son said something interesting," the psychologist said.

If a therapist spent twenty entire minutes with my daughter and then called her my son, I would be on the phone with every professional board that could possibly have to do with this person and leaving reviews on every website and contacting the fucking media because there is no possible universe in which that is remotely okay.

[–]PumpkinSpiceVagina 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Also, this kid is fucking six. Did this mother never stop and wonder where this child's notion of gender came from in the first place? I mean there are clues all over the article. "Pink is a girl's color", well who told her that? And even if it was then what makes a girl's color bad? Maybe her mom fighting her wanting to shop in the boy's section might have had something to do with it? Clothes for prepubescent boys and girls aren't made to fit their bodies differently and I have no idea where in the hell this lady got that notion. The difference is only the style, and that girls' clothes tend to be smaller in the same sizes for whatever stupid reason. Both my girls have happily worn their brothers' hand-me-downs and I've also bought them plenty of clothes from the boys' section and nobody magically grew a boy brain. The only reason there are separate sections in the first place is marketing, which I guess this lady totally fell for. God I feel sorry for that kid.

[–]worried19 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

That was the reason my mom refused to let me have boys' underwear at first. She said it wasn't made for a little girl's body. She eventually relented when I was about 7, and I've happily worn male underwear ever since.

[–]worried19 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

"Your son." And they say they're not encouraging children to be trans. Yet here is a psychologist referring to this little girl as male.

Reminds me of when Johanna Olson-Kennedy talked an 8 year old girl into identifying as a boy.

https://4thwavenow.com/2017/07/23/i-just-gave-him-the-language-top-gender-doc-uses-pop-tart-analogy-to-persuade-8-year-old-girl-shes-really-a-boy

[–]gcdesi 9 insightful - 2 fun9 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

That was such an odd article. I used to pretend to live in the jungle at 3 but no one took me there. Oppression!!!!!!!1

[–]worried19 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It's upsetting because I can see so much of myself in little Isabel, right down to the screaming, crying refusal to wear girls' clothes.

I was never a boy. I was a gender nonconforming girl whose mom realized that it was better and healthier for me to express myself how I wanted.