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[–]fuckingsealions 53 insightful - 2 fun53 insightful - 1 fun54 insightful - 2 fun -  (4 children)

The 90s and 00s were ok for gay, where I lived (West coast US). I do remember that a lot of tv shows had a token gay character who had already come out, The L Word appeared, Logo TV happened and it was kind of trendy. Pride was fun. I had friends who thought they were gay, or "dabbled" and I think for some it was a welcome shield against, you know, teen boys or older predatory men. There were jokes about women being LUGs (lesbian until graduation). And you know what, I don't think it seriously hurt most people. There were no hormones, only a lot of Indigo Girl and Ani DeFranco. It probably introduced some women to feminism and a feeling of safety and solidarity.

I think things will swing again. I'm sorry, it must be very lonely. My daughter is also "the only lesbian in the village" and is looking forward to college.

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    [–]fuckingsealions 37 insightful - 1 fun37 insightful - 0 fun38 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

    distant faraway look

    I felt like we were actually half the population then. And things could be made FOR us, BY women, rather than like male Hollywood directors giving us empowerment via a bikini and a machine gun leg.

    [–]MenAreFragileBabies 17 insightful - 1 fun17 insightful - 0 fun18 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

    I was a kid in the '90s, but I look back on it so, so fondly. Even in my little corner of the Midwest, it was decidedly not OK to actually hate gay people, or anyone, but we didn't have any gender nonsense either. You could be accepting and still have some common sense and personal boundaries. We little girls were encouraged to run as free as the boys, wear our flannels and overalls and big boots. I got raised to look after myself, because it was important that I not need anyone, especially not a man. If I got in fights, built a fort in the woods (no boys allowed!!), went to a store alone, so what? The boys did too. It was the most magical time to grow up.

    [–]onesundaymorning 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

    I remember those days! I was a full on tomboy in the '90s. I have no doubt if I were growing up now I would have been told to transition. I loved (still love) sports, working out, getting dirty, hanging with boys, etc. But I am a woman, never questioned being a girl (I just didn't like "girl" stuff), am attracted to men, and I grew up to love dresses, heels, and looking cute. There is NO WRONG OR RIGHT WAY TO BE A GIRL! I want all young girls to know that <3