GC: What is the best or most important thing trans people or transsexuals can do to help you?

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[–]loveSloaneDebate King 21 insightful - 3 fun21 insightful - 2 fun22 insightful - 3 fun -  (2 children)

Stop anything that even comes close to compelled speech, stop lying on legal documents, be clear that you’re trans outside of professional environments (I’m sorry- I think friends in addition to lovers have a right to know because it could change what people are comfortable talking to you about and other things- tbc, this doesn’t mean go up to a bartender in a bar and say “hi! I’m trans let me get a gin and tonic” it means in personal relationships people should have a right to know- I wold never speak to someone again if I confided in them thinking they were female and later found out they were not, for a few reasons) and leave women’s/female rights, sports, and spaces entirely alone. Also- any claims made publicly (whether it’s saying TW aren’t safe in men’s bathrooms, suicide rates, or even comparisons to intersex conditions etc) should be required to be cited and proven instead of just stated as if it’s fact.

And leave children alone to grow and develop naturally- no hormones no blockers no surgery- let them grow up and figure things out without being influenced.

Obligatory “not all trans people do these things”

Basically do what you gotta do for you but don’t force or drag anyone into participating unless they want to

[–]Porcelain_QuetzalTabby without Ears 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Out yourself to your friends.should I give them my medical history? Mental health checks? Criminal record as well?

[–]loveSloaneDebate King 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I’m sorry-Did I say that?

I mean, if your criminal history is something like you raped women or molested children then yeah- i’d like to know that. If you have a history of stealing from your friends or neighbors- it would be helpful to know so I could hide my valuables from you. If you’re a dealer I’d send clients your way all day. If you have Corona or something else contagious it would be nice to be told. If you have severe mental health issues then I’m sure it would become apparent but I would understand someone confiding that to me. But please show me where the fuck I asked for medical records, mental health checks, or criminal records? Surely you realize that being a criminal, having an illness- mental or physical- is completely different from being a whole ass man/male and pretending you aren’t? Surely you realize that you can open your mouth and say “I’m a trans wo/man” without giving me medical history, deadnaming yourself, or showing me your penis? Why do y’all always get so fucking dramatic about this? You don’t need to show people your hormone prescriptions or before and after pictures- just be fucking honest. I swear trans people (mostly TW) act like honesty is the worst policy and it can get so rapey and so invasive. Why would you want to be friends with someone who may be transphobic or who won’t be comfortable around you if they knew? It’s so weird to me.

I will talk to my female friend who has been to prison, has cancer, or is bipolar about things that I would never talk to a male friend about. Just like I would go to my male friends about things I’d not go to female friends about.

This is such an odd response that makes no sense. Yes- I would prefer to know if I’m talking to a man or a woman about certain personal things. And talking to a man/male that doesn’t let me know he’s a man/male, if I found out the truth, I would feel invaded and mislead, whether that man/male is a criminal or not.