Fully agree with your comment. Men get off on inflicting pain on women. Anal sex is appealing to men because it's likely to hurt women and it's associated with "tainting" a woman by making her do something degrading. Porn amplifies this in every way possible.

Growing up, I viewed sex as an act focused on giving and receiving pleasure, and strengthening an intimate connection between two people. But seeing, hearing, and reading the way men talk about sex was eye-opening for me. Treating women with sweetness and genuine affection is "weak" or "gay" (lol) for a man to do. Men talk about sex like it's a way for them to conquer or ruin women.

I resent the fact that it's become taboo in feminist circles to talk about all the messed up ways men view sex. Instead, women are encouraged to compete with men on who can be the most apathetic, violent, and demeaning when it comes to sex. It's not "cool" to see sex as something that should require trust, safety, respect, intimacy, and affection. But maybe most women do want to be degraded during sex. Even though I'm blackpilled, that's something I still struggle to accept sometimes.