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How does one gain confidence to actually do something with their life?
submitted 1 month ago by Polar64 from self.AskSaidIt
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[–]Mcheetah 4 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 2 fun - 1 month ago (1 child)
I'm gonna tell you something someone wise once told me that I haven't really adopted: She said "true confidence" (not external fickle things, like being born with height, good looks, wealth, etc.) comes from a very long list of tiny victories and becomes a resumé of small victories you can look back on as the "success" in your personal life. Meaning, you gain confidence one day at a time, with tiny little things, and build it up over years, not just one great big victory, like winning the lottery, getting a high paying job, getting a hot girl briefly interested in you for a short time, or any other thing that's external, you didn't really work to achieve, or can be taken away from you at any time.
That's apparently the way to truly gain confidence: A resumé of little victories everyday, instead of relying on superficial garbage. Take or leave it. Do with that information as you will.
As for "why didn't you take her advice?" I'm too old and cynical to care anymore. 22 year old me would have, but I'll be 38 at the end of this year.
[–]rodmanii 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun - 1 month ago (0 children)
taking advice from a woman? pathetic
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