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[–]akkordeonplayer 4 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 2 fun -  (5 children)

I think a large problem for this country (and yes, I can call myself a hypocrite here) has to do with digital/media addiction. I'm more of the forum-addict here, and I prefer conversations online vs in person. It leads to a depersonalization of others which is probably poisonous to humans in terms of human behavior/relationships.

I'm thinking in the biggest culprits include social media, gaming and porn. Example... People are now addicted to 24/7 internet porn where they weren't 20 years ago. Nobody wants to admit to this, but it changes people's personalities/desires/impulses and takes up a lot of their "mental space", impacts how they view other people and relationships, how they view sexual consent laws.

There was a time I wanted to have a long term relationship with a guy, but he became OBSESSED with internet porn to the point where I couldn't stand to be with him any longer. There is only so much physical sexual violence and coersion one can take before one has to check out. We're talking hours and hours in his "den" while life still went on. Felt like I was single (and yes, I take care of my body, so it wasn't an issue that I stopped taking care of myself). If I confronted him about it, he refused to listen to me, like a knee-jerk addict. This is a super common pattern among women I've talked to... the men go down this porn/dating app rabbit hole, become completely disinterested in terms of being responsible partners/fathers, refuse to acknowledge any issues. These are often women who include conservative "obedient" types who adhere to religious beliefs. Nothing they could do or try swayed their partner away from their addiction. If you're with a man like this, you're better off single.

Give a man like this religion, he still won't dump the porn addiction, because most churches will tell them "it's not your fault". Men aren't expected to adhere to sexual morality even in most major abrahamic religions, but women are. With internet porn/dating apps, infidelity along with the associated STDs/unplanned extra marital pregnancies are now epidemic or even "normalized". There's no reason for a woman, even if she wants the traditional family, to start a relationship as she has no idea what kind of nightmare she's in for. Herpes, aids are forever, anal prolapse is dangerous, and no one wants to be choked to death by "surprise" while having sex.

My ex was raised hardcore Catholic, but he wasn't immune to the sexual degeneracy. And now, I see how lucky I was, because at least HE didn't decide to t r 0 0 n out, which is becoming more and more popular and pushed by mass media/tech.

I can see a lot of women get totally consumed by social media, and some dive into internet shopping addiction, some get addicted to porn and dating apps, so I'm not claiming it's only a one way street. Children are also addicted, and exposed to a shit ton of propaganda that no one seems to be stopping.

[–]Velocity 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Men aren't expected to adhere to sexual morality even in most major abrahamic religions

Abrahamic being Islam and Judaism? I mean, they both tolerate sex with kids and donkeys...so male sexual promiscuity seems tame in comparison.

On the other hand, most Christians, Hindus and Buddhists seem to place some virtue on disciplining one's sexual behavior.

[–]NordGeit 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

I reckon christianity as also being abrahamic...

[–]Velocity 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Is it?....Is it really?

[–]NordGeit 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

[–]Velocity 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Why?