agreed. but what differences do you see? i guess i've only become interested in this gender identity stuff recently and started to lean more gender critical. that is what led me to saidit (via reddit). i suppose i am having some internal conflict about the way i want to live my life as a woman.

if you don't feel like chatting about this i understand but you seem to have some interesting ideas on the topic and i am finding few spaces to engage in these topics. FWIW, i guess i can tell you a little about myself... i earned my PhD a couple years ago and work in academia now. but i also got unexpectedly pregnant with my first child just a months after completing that degree. i've seen how despite my best efforts, having my baby has led to my career stalling much more than my husband's. i've always been very career-minded (in an ideological "i want to make a difference" kind of way). there still seems to be this inequity with parenting, even with a really great/active parent as a husband (like mine). i see it with almost every working mother i know IRL. i'm not sure how much of this is driven by unfair, sexist expectations for mothers (run the household, be the default parent)...and how much of it is driven by my own innate, biological (?) orientation/desire to be a good mother, build my family (i.e. have more children), run the household, etc.

edit- i just realized that i thought you were a user on here who had made a different post about these specific issues. regardless, i'm down for discussion about these topics w/ anyone.