willialey

It is awful to feel unwelcome—invisible, unworthy, and ineligible for the things that anyone would wish for. It is also quite feasible to navigate a challenging social situation with kindness and grace. None of the individuals I spoke with thought they deserved to have the sex they want. In America, being poor, black, obese, transgender, Native American, old, crippled, or illegal, among other characteristics, is typically a sign that one has learned what it means to be unwelcome. The best defense is structural power, which ensures that a wealthy straight white male, no matter how disagreeable, will always be greeted with a smile and treated well at financial institutions. He will also find methods to find a partner. I introduce kick the buddy