(Saidit) PEAK TRANS I: Please continue to share your stories!! by Irascible-harpy in GenderCritical
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My peak as really only happened recently, but looking back, has been building for the past two years. It’s mostly centred around one person, S, so for the longest time I thought I just had issues with S personally, not the trans community as a whole. But after reading other people’s stories on here about trans individuals who have used their trans identity to intimidate and insert themselves into women’s lives unwanted, I’ve realised that my issues with S are part of a much wider, alarming issue.
tl;dr: GNC man doesn’t like that I won’t date him, proceeds to insert himself into every aspect of my life including claiming to be a TIM to get assigned to my female-only dorm 6000 miles from home (It didn’t work). I’ve rewritten this so many times and every time it got too long, so here is a list of all the things I can think of that happened with S that contributed to my peak:
To put it simply, I have a really uneasy feeling that S has been using the excuse of being transgender in order to insert himself into my life, and into female only spaces. The fact that I turned him down romantically and he then thought it was appropriate to request to live with me in a single-sex dorm still creeps me out to this day – I’m so so glad that it didn’t happen.
No woman has ever made me feel this unsafe; this pursued. I thought that at first, my problem was with S and that surely he was just a bad example and the community as a whole was valid, but the more I think about it, the more I realise that I’ve noticed similar behaviours from other trans people that I know. (For example, another TIM that insists on hugging me every opportunity, even though I have told them I’m not a hugger. I don’t even hug my female friends, but this guy is really insistent that it’s “what girls do”).
I’ve never been good with words. I can’t eloquently argue my point. That’s why I’m so grateful I found this community, because it has helped to really realise why these behaviours have made me feel so uncomfortable.
Every TIM I’ve ever met has used the excuse of “being a woman” to violate my personal space and to feel entitled to a position in my life. I feel like I have been forced to accept it or be labelled a transphobe. This silencing of women with fear tactics and complete distain for our boundaries is exactly what I thought feminism was fighting against, so to see it so widely accepted in libfem circles is honestly so alarming.
(Saidit) PEAK TRANS I: Please continue to share your stories!! by Irascible-harpy in GenderCritical
[–]azuretsuki 46 insightful - 1 fun46 insightful - 0 fun47 insightful - 0 fun47 insightful - 1 fun - (0 children)