"I was born when she kissed me. I died when she left me. I lived a few weeks while she loved me." ~ Dixon Steele, In a Lonely Place (1950)

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[–]JasonCarswell[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

You started with, "Fuckin' beta male."

Not exactly friendly words. I don't know if you were attacking Bogart, Bogart's screenwriter character Dixon Steele (a violent ladies man suspected of murder), or Dixon Steele's fictional character who's to say the famous line, or me.

And concluded with, "Not this "boo hoo she left me" bullshit."

While it may be macho to not give a shit, and maybe some chicks dig it, a lot of girls like a guy they can relate to. In my opinion and experience, that' what attracts women. It's also given me more heartache than I could handle.

You did not make a good point. It was simply contrarian. All perspectives are valid to some degree, and some are even correct. In this case there is no correct view. Bookended with aggressiveness, intentional or otherwise.

Here's what women really dig: confidence, for the most part, within reason.

Social engineering has evolved our relationships of monogamy, with all its pros and cons, into casual flings, with all its pros and cons. I had more than average of the later and would have preferred the former.

Talk about taking it to the extremes... most people don't commit suicide with a broken heart (and chronic depression).

[–]Chipit 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

Yeah. Because any man who puts his self-worth in a woman is a beta. For sure.

Who was even talking about an actor? You know their whole thing is playing pretend? Like children? Seriously, that's their actual job.

Women like a man who is outcome-independent. This is also healthy for men. She likes to know you have options. For men, it is also good to have options, so you don't kill yourself and and airline full of people.

You wouldn't feel bored with casual sex unless you had had enough of it. Do you seriously not realize this? If you hadn't had it, you wouldn't feel this way. Sheeeit. It's like saying "oh, money isn't all that" in the middle of a sea of starving people. Sure, your perspective is valid - as long as you ignore the context.

[–]JasonCarswell[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

"_ Who was even talking about an actor? _"

My quote was, if you'd bothered to look any of it up: "I was born when she kissed me. I died when she left me. I lived a few weeks while she loved me." ~ Dixon Steele, In a Lonely Place (1950)

You know what is an even crazier actual job than acting? Animation. It is acting, but through drawings or computers. That's what I've done nearly all my life.

I have had enough but was never "bored with casual sex". I just wanted more out of a relationship, like commitment and a future. That didn't happen for me. I'm fine without and more zen for it.

Again with the extremes. Who says "money isn't all that" in the context of a starving sea? No one would. Yet there are missionaries and activists who aren't driven by money who try to help people in starving seas.