Something to consider before marrying a non-virgin woman

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[–]privatejoker11 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Which was the better lover?

[–]Comatoast 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

My husband. To try to be sort of vague: I was happy to embrace the whole vulnerability thing, wasn't embarrassed or freaked out, and through whatever sorcery parts just seemed to fit together the way that they're supposed to.

[–]privatejoker11 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I was happy to embrace the whole vulnerability thing

I don't follow. Why shouldn't you embrace it? That's one of the gifts of marriage, they say. You don't need to feel vulnerable. It's a safe space - in the original sense ;)

wasn't embarrassed or freaked out

Same question as above. By what? Why should you be embarrassed with your husband? (I don't dare ask you to divulge intimate details, you understand, dear madam.)

Perhaps it might more profit the readership here (who are, I believe, mostly members of the coarser sex) if you offered your gracious reflections as to whether your husband, who was, from what you've shared with us, I presume (correct me if I've misunderstood) less experienced in intimate matters than your lovely self, felt vulnerable, embarrassed, or freaked out?

[–]Comatoast 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

We weren't married beforehand. And because vulnerability is hard to accept easily usually.

Regarding embarrassment, it's someone seeing everything. Maybe some people are comfortable being naked in front of other people, I'm just more on the modest side so that's pretty intimate. It's a big deal to me, despite not being tied to any abrahamic religion. I just felt/feel more comfortable with him than anyone else.

There was anxious excitement, none of the other stuff. He had concern of not being able to last, but it wasn't a problem.

[–]privatejoker11 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

So, eh, you only had two lovers? The way you tell your story, we don't know. Goes right from your first boyfriend to your husband.

(Excuse the ungracious question, ma'am, and don't answer if you don't want to. It's more a rhetorical question anyway.)