Thank you for taking time to answer.

I define Harm as a [physical] action
one person performs upon another person without permission [or forgiveness]

• Self defense is justifiable in context (acting party wrong, redefined).
  
• Hurt feelings is not a result of Harm
  [insults in a foreign language is a good example:
  . any effort to be offended by what you may have misinterpreted.]
  

If you are okay with those points I would take this discussion private