It's the problem with the gender identity rabbit hole. I think these online spaces basically feed into exasperating these underlying anxieties.

So like, this guy is worried about how he's acting like a gross man and all that because he is sexually attracted to women, just like a man would be. It's funny.

Ditch the identity side of things and you've just got a "feminine man" like I think it's weird if you want to wear a dress sometimes as a man but minus the identity issues you'll probably not have too hard a time finding someone who is into that and is willing to date you.

I know a few men who are very, "stylish" and dress in ways that aren't necessarily feminine but basically use makeup and nail paint and all that shit. And they always seem to have dates easily enough.

Course there's the whole "lesbian" fetish thing, like whatever if you're a man and into lesbians I can understand that but that's like being a fish into breathing. Not going to happen. I'll never understand why you'd want to identify as a lesbian since you will be the hero who will reduce your dating pool down to zero.