there's always a tension between the "we're normies too" vs "let your freak flag fly" types in any social movement: one calls the others ideologues isolating themselves from the reality everyone has to live in, the other accuses them of being assimilationists

thing is it's usually kept private (in part to present a united front) so outsiders only see a sudden shift; it's also generational--no gay over 35's gonna think singing "we're coming for your kids!" will turn the course of US history in their favor!