Some women mimic the male pattern violence. Most don't. But some do.

Women typically don't have much success being violent towards men since they're likely to be weaker than the male. But in situations where the male cannot respond to violence with violence in turn some will use that strategy. It'd the classic "you can't hit me back I'm a girl" bullying tactic.

Girl attacks some guy she wants to bully for whatever reason. Then says "You can't hit me back because I'm a girl". The guy can hit her in self defense, but the girl will go crying to the teacher, and the guy will get in trouble, and most everyone will say the guy is in the wrong.

Now there are certainly smarter ways to deal with this situation than violence, but this is the way that society works.

The question to ask is "are women capable of violence" as a general statement sure, men are more violent than women is true. But is there any reason why some individual woman can't just decide to murder someone? Clearly they can. So applying social wide level generalities towards the individual isn't smart. You wouldn't go into court and argue that you didn't commit the murder because "women don't murder people".