Getting over guilt being trans as a parent?

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[–]Alienhunter糞大名 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

The most “acceptance” I received in my teen years was my mother, ironically a queer person herself, “tolerating it” while simultaneously telling me things like how I would never be able to have a partner, I’d be horribly ugly if I went on hormones, and things of that nature.

Based Mom telling you the down and dirty downsides. Oh wait you want people to tell you everything will be sunshine and roses instead.

I don't much mind the transpeople that don't care about other people's acceptance of themselves and understand the downsides. It's these crazies that need constant validation from others and need to be lied to about how their life choices will effect them that are clearly insane.

Additionally I have a partner who I have been honest about my feelings with who has actually been fairly supportive, but I think that’s because I’m not currently transitioning and it doesn’t get talked about often or outside of the home

Have you been completely honest with him from the beginning? I doubt that. Sounds like you've hooked him with a child and he's stuck between a rock and a hard place eh?

when I made a comment in a moment of vulnerability asking if my partner would be able to tell people they had a husband, the response was “well we’ve said if things don’t work out between us that’s okay” and that stings

Right so you didn't actually mean it when you said that's ok. Got it.

Knew a guy in a relationship like this. No kid thankfully. Wife went all "actually I'm a man and I want to be in a gay relationship with you" ruined the marriage naturally. Guy was fine with the girl being like "I wish I was born a man for XYZ reason" that wasn't the issue, he was fine with doing whatever in private in the bedroom, also was fine with his wife dressing however she wanted. But it all fell apart because she wanted him to suddenly change his identity to be gay or whatnot in public. Not at all surprised really. I see it mostly as an immature child who wants to play pretend 24/7. And I think it's basically the same in this case, you've got a husband and kid and you are willing to throw that all away to go play pretend dress up 24/7? Ok well let's see your kindergarten graduation proof because I have my suspicions you need to go back and retake it.

[–]alladd 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

What's wild is so, so many of them are single parents now because of their stupid selfish decisions, in a time where it's more expensive than ever to care for a new baby. I think it's every single "trans parent" who commented on the thread.

They're putting themselves in financial and mental ruin for life, destroying a loving relationship (with a no doubt confused and depressed lesbian spouse) and probably raising a fucked up, miserable kid, all because they can't give up their maladaptive sexual fantasies.