The whole thing is just a way to manipulate the conversation and try to get away with shit. I've never asked someone their preferred pronouns and I never will. Because I refer to people by their name or by the one true pronouns "You". There's literally zero reason to ask in any interaction.

If people ask me my preferred pronouns it's simple. I, me, my, are the pronouns I prefer to use for myself. You may use them to refer to me as well.