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[–]BellaBlue 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (3 children)

I was a tomboy during puberty specifically because I was not taught the concept of consent; my mom had borrowed library books about puberty and let me read them on my own. The books did not discuss consent, just purely biological "Penis goes in Vagina where Sperm meets Egg. Sperm + Egg + 9 Months = Baby! Everytime!"

Even from the age of 8 I was seeing bumper stickers that said "It's a baby, not a choice! 😀" so as a 9-year-old going through puberty, I sincerely believed a man could make the choice to put a baby in me, and I would have no say in the matter.

So I started wearing my dad's clothes.

[–]Alienhunter糞大名 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I wonder if that goes along with a general aversion to the idea of pregnancy or simply a desire to have ones own agency in the matter? Back in college a lot of the "let's talk about consent all the time" types were also very much "I never wanna have kids ever but the doctors won't let me get a hysterectomy because I might change my mind in 10 years what about my rights" and if I'm being very honest about it it seems kinda similar to what is happening now, except with the addition of them identifying as men and actually being able to get the hysterectomy in some cases.

The consent crusaders always seemed a bit off to me as well, we used to make fun of them quote a bit "Did you know that consent is important." "Oh shit you mean rape is bad? What? Nobody told me that before! I better call my friend right now! Hey man look did you know rape is bad! Yeah I know right holy shit! Who would have guessed! Remember to brush your teeth, look both ways when crossing the street and not to rape anyone today!".

It just seemed all a bit, what's the word, oblivious? Autistic? Perhaps a social contagion in and of itself? Then again lots of people I knew were borderline radfems so they were kinda loopy. It's like, rape is a problem, mostly everyone in human society bar very few exceptions has thought that I think. Doesn't mean it still doesn't happen. But this was the era of "Help help a man complimented my hair rape!" Types.

[–]Airbus320 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

Found the cross dresser

[–]BellaBlue 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

During puberty, yeah, but I grew out of it 💅