Women absolutely want to date men with long hair and slender bodies, as well as softer personalities. Most straight women do not want to date "masculine" men in the traditional sense. There is just a discrepancy between what men consider feminine (over the top, bimbo-like) and what women consider feminine (more relatable to them, fashionble, vulnerable) hence why gay effeminate men don't appeal to women (and why troons struggle passing miserably even over text.) Most popular male characters in otome games are some degree of feminine, vast majority of them are more feminine than the average male. Sometimes you get the token muscular boyish boy character for those who love them, but the most popular male love interests in dating games remain more feminine than average. See: Shiraishi Kageyuki, Asahina Louis, Himuka/Tokisada from Olympia Soiree, Hugh from Ashen Hawk