Wrote this comment in r/punk that will almost certainly deleted, would appreciate some thoughts

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[–]INeedSomeTime 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I can speak from a perspective of metal community. All it took you to be a fellow metalhead was sharing the love for metal music and then you just bought metal band's merchandise from official places or rip offs if you were too broke. You grew out hair and wore military boots. You attended metal concerts. You never expected from people to treat you any different. Only maybe your parents were annoying by complaining about your long hair. Meanwhile as enby you immediately demand from everyone to bend over, think 24/7 about your pronouns, making sure everyone refers to you as you want, you become a center of their attention since you said how dead naming and misgendering can literally hurt you, so whenever you have to be mentioned in 3rd person your friends wonder what pronouns to use and make sure not to slip up.

[–]RuinedSpiral[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah see my experience in punk was much the same as yours in metal aside from the fact that it was always a little more explicitly political. My point is it didn’t demand all of this shit from people outside of it. I think there’s also an important distinction made that these subcultures tend to revolve around music, while the whole gender thing seems much more like a political party or a religion. There’s no art there.