I have mixed beliefs on the matter.

For me, trans people who are open and honest about who/what they are and are willing to accept the consequences--good and bad-- of being trans and everything that comes with it are OK in my book, for the most part.

The ones that are honest with their potential lovers about their anatomy, sexual appetites/fetishes, and beliefs about gays and lesbians are OK. It try to have a "live and let live" ethos when it comes to consenting adults.

I'd go further and say that if more of them recognized that what they are is something utterly incomprehensible to most people, and that them being trans is likely to be a source of constant struggle even on the best days, then I'd respect them more. Though not always to the same degree, think of all the different groups of people today that still don't have widespread acceptance in many places, such as homosexuals, atheists, members of minority religions etc. These groups by and large had to accept that there was no Brave New World where they were 100% accepted. At-least not in this lifetime. The trans community needs the same reality check. Accepting that you are not going to be everyone's friend is like a child's lesson.

If they could loosen up about about their mental health melodramas that would be great as well. I have diagnosed OCD and it's been a source of varying degrees of depression, anxiety, and panic throughout my life. I've mostly learned to manage it with medication and counseling and live life on my terms. People with mental struggles should get compassion, but firmness as well. Letting people languish in a mental prison for fear of offending or triggering them is only ever a temporary fix that often goes awry.

That's where the line is drawn for me. If you are honest, accepting that you are different in a way that most people simply don't understand, and aren't deceitful to friends and lovers, you are fine.

The ones that are devoid of personality, endlessly obsessed with their sexual fetishes and appetites, vindictive and hateful to their own families and friends, demand people be punished even if they made an honest "mistake" and misgendered them, crybully about their mental health traumas and then laugh at or ignore other peoples struggles are making me really sad on the best days, and very angry on the worst.