The whole "xenogender" BS was the clearest indication that none of this is about any actual part of their self (in the sense that homosexuality is), but is simply the newest, most fashionable "in" group, a way to be seen and noticed and praised. Everything in progressive circles now must be about "gender" because progressivism thrives on having a defined target, and after gay marriage was won, they needed something new to be "on the right side of history" about. Couple that with a generation of socially inept, terminally online young people who can't form meaningful relationships IRL, and you get this insanity.