Nobody in my life values me as much as I value them or values my input; that unfulfilled desire to feel fulfilled in even a friendship takes years off my life.

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I'm commenting because this is on my front page, and human behavior interests me.

I spend all my emotional and mental energy on people who might have briefly cared about me at a beginning of a relationship and then don't.

This doesn't appear to be a successful strategy.

How important is it to you to have people 'in your life' who exhibit interest in you, your thoughts, your opinions, and your personality? Would you consider working to change your current personality to be more attractive to your target demographic?

I can now say I'm a misanthrope [a person who dislikes humankind and avoids human society]

I can say from experience that this makes your quest more challenging... I mean, it's pretty much the opposite of a behavior and personality type that would attract friends.

Whether or not you intended that to be seen as hyperbole, it may cut to the heart of your dilemma. There's a whole set of behaviors that tend to attract and maintain friendships, and a set that are typically successful in repelling other humans. If it were a choice, would you rather continue with your (probably valid) dislike of our species - which repels people - or is your loneliness unpleasant enough to consider changing your beliefs and behaviors into a personality that would attract people?