Redditor really wants to know if asexuals like california pizza

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[–]bucetao6969[S] 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (4 children)

I don't know if asexual people want support or understanding. Their main goal is awareness (the biggest asexual project as of the moment is the awareness program). Although "acephobia" exists it's nowhere near the same as homophobia so they don't keep screeching that.

The reason for their goal is like I said the culture around sex is very problematic for asexual people because it can make them very frustated around certain things. So they want people to know if they're asexual it's a real thing and for others to not do things such as shaming asexual men.

And again don't get me wrong, some could be doing it for trendyness.

[–]Dontcaretoday 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

I still fully believe that many, if not most, are taking it up because they want to feel special. The link you posted was most definitely a kid looking for attention lol. I can acknowledge that others may have different motives though, even if I feel personally that most of the things you are describing are within the realm of normal human behavior, just not normal in a culture where sex is really overemphasized. No one should be pressured or made to feel embarrassed if they don't want sex or only want it under the right conditions for them, so trying to make it so that people aren't being given a hard time over it is a good thing.

[–]bucetao6969[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I'm gonna be honest. I think asexual "pride" is goofy compared to gay people. It's not like they need the pride thing because they aren't opressed. And like you said if someone feels they're pressured into having sex that's not acephobia that's rape culture.

I do understand some have "issues" when dealing with their parents though.

I think if someone wants to be "asexual" I wouldn't say that person wants to feel special, too much hassle. You could be skeptical of "gray" and "demi" I guess. But really it's not like asexual people are going around and doing shit that angers people so it doesn't matter. Let them "feel special" if that's all they do at the end of the day.

[–]Dontcaretoday 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I doubt that anyone claiming full asexuality is doing it to be trendy, just the in between labels that would give someone an opportunity to have their cake and eat it too, which you already said yourself gets picked up by people who probably aren't serious. I'm sure there are people calling themselves demi or whatever that do fit actually fit the description also, but as you said no one who isn't family or wanting a relationship with that person is likely to care at all, so if someone is going around waving whatever variation of pride flag and making a personality out of it I'm probably not going to take them seriously.

Yes, they're harmless enough that I could just let them feel special anyway and go about my day without comment, but if I was that kind of non-asshole I wouldn't hang out in Tumblr in Action lol.

[–]bucetao6969[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

said yourself gets picked up by people who probably aren't serious

Not all. Like I said some get confused. Asexuality is unfortunately confusing.

I met this girl that today she said she was demi. But she did feel horny on hot dudes who she didn't have a relationship with beforehand which would mean that she wasn't demi.

I think some of it is also because some people wanted to "fit" into something, like a community. People are desperate for it these days.

Yes, they're harmless enough that I could just let them feel special anyway and go about my day without comment, but if I was that kind of non-asshole I wouldn't hang out in Tumblr in Action lol.

If you meet a asexual who doesn't go around waving their cringe flags do give them a chance :)