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[–]Hello367 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I'm very young and I'm gay, and when I read things like this it really messes with me mentally and makes me insecure, was she on the radio today or was this in the past because the article is labeled four months ago?

[–]paleolithicat[S] 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I heard it on the radio during a show they have where they present books and add interview excerpts with the author. This was yesterday but it is not a UK radio show so it is normal that there were already British articles on the topic in the internet (probably that's how the radio journalists found out about her new book as well). After hearing it, I had to check what I heard so I "investigated" a bit on the web and posted this particular article on it.

I will join whateverbeaver and reassure you that there is nothing to be insecure about. You will see with time that there are constantly such attacks on our sexuality and identity with the sheer goal of convincing you that lesbians do not exist, all women are either bi or straight, and that being a lesbian is some sort of a choice because you have a certain problem with men. Like trauma, hate, aversion to sex in general because according to them sex is only sex involving a male (notice, gay sex is sex! Lesbian sex on the contrary doesn't exist or is not a real thing) or even disobedience which is mostly an indirect message and only clear to see after analysing the deeper context of their accusations.

You will see and hear a lot. Don't worry, you are not alone. Probably each of us lets it get to their head from time to time - the attacks are at every turn after all! But it gets better with time because you stop caring about morons and their stupidity and realize you don't have to fit in their narrow view of who you are supposed to be or how you are supposed to act.

I have said it in another posts already but with the years to come you will see that lesbians are the only people on the planet free of men. It will be a big revelation and you will realize how much of how the human world functions is dictated by men's desires and opinions. This gives us a special power as we are able to see things outside of the male box which men (straight, bi or gay) and women (straight or bi) all over the world inhabit. I believe that is why a lot of the most prominent and independent women in history turn out to be lesbian women. So fuck expectations and go strong!

There are many others like you and you are one step forward because you have already at least found an online space where you can communicate with other lesbians. :)