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[–]piylot 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I've had someone comment about me being young before on a date, and at the time it made me feel insecure but once I was out of the situation I think it was more likely they were actually feeling insecure about being older and didn't mean to offend me. My vote is to bring it up, ask her about her reservations, how much you both notice the age gap and experiences with age gaps before etc. But ultimately you're very likely to be at different life stages and if she'd prefer a relationship with someone in a similar life stage to her that's what she wants. And let us know how it goes

[–]LenaScrpn1111[S] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Im just not seeing it though. I think I would get it if I was 18 and she 30. Or I was 45 and she 57. But our lives aren’t the much different. I’m not in college. I’m not planning on having children. We are both settled in our careers so it’s just going over my head.

I will definitely speak to her once I can do so calmly and rationally.

[–]TheSunAlsoSucks 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Well, you were 18 when she was 30, and you will be 45 when she is 57. That's a lot to take in when you are thinking about a relationship with someone. She may be looking for ms. Right and sees you as looking for ms. Right now because of the language you are using to talk about the age difference. I would be a little cautious as well, I think.