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[–][deleted] 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

I dunno. The OP doesn't sound like a teenager, but if they were a teenager I probably wouldn't want to say much more than 'lesbians are attracted to women only and not men, go and find out for yourself, love is love, stay safe (and don't go talking to adults on the internet about sex!!)'. I am personally really uncomfortable with the way online forums enable teens to talk about their sexuality and gender with people who are potentially not teenagers. Like, one of the mods on AL (a transwoman in a poly relationship with other transwomen and a man) is a diaper, furry fetishist who's married to a man who is sexually attracted to minors (among other things). God knows who is going to be answering their questions or using this as a way to engage in talking to young kids about their sexuality. https://grahamlinehan.substack.com/p/ashton-challenor-the-boy-who-disappeared

[–]TalerTest 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

go and find out for yourself, love is love, stay safe (and don't go talking to adults on the internet about sex!!)

I don't think teenagers would respond to that. It would sound too patronizing because most teens think of themselves as adults.

[–][deleted] 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah. It worries me but I wouldn't know how to fix this. I really think teenagers should just be discussing these things with trusted adults or peers their own age. Like this is from a quick browse of AL. There's this crap thread with people suggesting she's a 'bottom' or 'submissive' or that she should try 'aftercare' https://www.reddit.com/r/actuallesbians/comments/juxbku/my_girlfriend_used_a_strap_on_on_me_and_now_i/ . This one is fishing for information about high-school sexual experiences https://www.reddit.com/r/actuallesbians/comments/juwk12/first_kiss_first_relationship_first_experience/ . I mean, they could all be well-intentioned, but it would be easy enough for someone who is a creep to have a grand old time in these places. But I'm 25. I can guarantee that anyone my age or older who wants to engage with minors in a discussion about sex/sexuality either doesn't know that they're a minor, or is a creep.

[–][deleted] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

one of the mods on AL (a transwoman in a poly relationship with other transwomen and a man) is a diaper, furry fetishist who's married to a man who is sexually attracted to minors (among other things)

What the hell? AL is a sub FULL of teens. Reddit's so concerned with banning true lesbian subs, but lets this crap happen?

[–][deleted] 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yes. It makes me feel sick. Adults are free to explore their weird fetishes with each other, but no way should anyone with these sorts of attractions to children / infants or minors— or just a poor sense of sexual boundaries in general; be anywhere near teens. I went through the mod in question's history and found these gems https://www.reddit.com/r/TransDIY/comments/6bb0ua/i_am_trying_to_help_a_uk_trans_girl_just_starting/ and https://www.reddit.com/r/ainbow/comments/683vuv/green_party_wants_trans_kids_to_have_right_to/ and https://www.reddit.com/r/mylittlepony/comments/4luyho/i_was_rewatching_say_goodbye_to_the_holiday_when/ and https://www.reddit.com/r/lgbt/comments/96ld21/lgbt_is_not_now_or_ever_will_be_accepting/ The last one is there to show that they're a massive hypocrite.

And look, I don't know what to say. If I could change this I would. I would kick the mods out, and have educational programs in schools about how groomers operate online and that it's not appropriate to talk about sexuality / gender with an adult. I want to shake some sense into the pro-kink idiots online who tell (kids) that kinks are fine and dandy, because when someone has abnormal sexual interests you have to treat them with extra caution just to keep yourself safe.

But I'm probably just yelling into the void here.