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[–]sunzzy 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I have the same fear , I guess its because I live in such a small town and the only other lesbian I know doesn't like me... I'm still holding onto the hope that I will find someone though. It won't be too long til I start going to uni in London so hopefully I'll be able to meet more people there.

I don't have any advice for how to get rid of that fear, although it seems to definitely be a common one. I'd say spend some time looking at what there is in the places you are thinking of moving to , try to look at the exciting parts of the future not the uncertain or scary parts. Thats what I am doing.

Theres no reason to feel hopeless about it yet , we are both still young and there is no rule saying that you have to have met the love of your life by a certain age.

[–]RedVelvetCake[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Thanks for your input! I generally have this bad habit of looking at things from a (relatively) pessimistic point of view and it's been one of the things I've been working on. Though I haven't really made much of a progress yet, I really need to start being more conscious of my thoughts and trying to look at the brighter side of life...

And I hope you'll find someone in uni! You'll meet all sorts of people there, so it'll definitely increase your chance of meeting someone who you click with. Good luck and hope you enjoy your uni life!

[–]sunzzy 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Thanks, and don't worry we all are guilty of being pessimistic sometimes and its ok to admit when you're feeling lonely. I don't think a fear of being alone forever is just a lesbian thing, my straight friends worry about it too, but I'm sure you have lots of things that make you brilliant and one day someone will appreciate it!