Hi! I'm 20 years old and since I came to terms with my sexuality a couple months ago, I started worrying that what if I'll never find a girlfriend? Before I came to accept my sexuality, I strongly believe that we shouldn't be relying on people for our own happiness, and I basically lived by the motto because I wasn't interested in romance (I thought I was asexual). But after accepting my sexuality and knowing that I actually want to be in a relationship, it has become harder for me to live with my motto, even though I still believe in it.
There are things I can control to increase the likelihood of finding a partner (e.g. through self-improvement), but there are other aspects that are totally out of my control (e.g. smaller dating pool). Plus, it doesn't help with the fact that I'll only be able to join the dating pool a couple years later when I'm in my mid- or late-20s because I'm planning on saving up for a few years before I move to somewhere else (leaning towards Canada for now). Unfortunately, the dating pool for lesbians in the place I'm residing in is close to non existent because homosexuality isn't widely accepted here. This concern has been bugging me for awhile now (probably because of COVID, since I've been staying at home a lot) and I don't really know how to cope with it.
Does anyone else have this concern? How do you get your mind off of this?
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