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[–]Seahorse 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I mean it's tinder (or whatever dating site) I'm not going to go to that much effort for an internet stranger and it also puts unneeded pressure on things. It's a numbers game, after all.

I was striking up the convo, it wasn't half assed so much as to simply start off saying hey and go from there.

When I messaged other stuff (so called exciting or "interesting" lines) the convo almost always died not long after, like literally a few messages back and forth.

Because when you message like that the person feels compelled to reply regardless of if they actually want to or not (I felt guilty when someone messaged me like that so I'd reply and then closed answer after that).

And like I said, I never got dates from girls messaging like that. What got me dates was just being chill and chatting like I would in person, laid back. For me this was messaging it a hey how's it going way.

Anyway I have found my life partner too, but she wasn't online dating, it's a pretty hit or miss way to meet people in general.

But, I met my partner on Reddit, so yeah I must know a bit about talking to people online lol.