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[–]TalerTest 12 insightful - 2 fun12 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 2 fun -  (3 children)

I'm aware that I just did what you were talking about, it was meant to be ironic, sorry.

I can see a lesbian saying that she believes that transwomen can be lesbians just so others don't call her a bigot, but a woman who will willingly date a transwomen is not a lesbian by definition. Trans woman + biological woman = heterosexual relationship. In this case it's not about beliefs, it's about facts.

[–]literallyjustvibing[S] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

oh whoops. i'm bad at telling sarcasm sometimes, sorry :). what's the general consensus on the word terf? do most lesbians really dislike being called it? and i still have the question, whats the best neutral term for a lesbian who thinks lesbian = bio woman exclusively attracted to bio woman?

and yes i agree with you on the dating thing. i was just trying to make allowances because the pressure to not be a tRaNsPhObE is very real. but yes, a trans woman and a bio woman dating is a het relationship. any other way doesn't really make any sense.

[–]TalerTest 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I don't think anyone here would care if you called them a TERF because we've all accepted that in 2020 being homosexual makes you transphobic by default. I don't know a neutral term for lesbians who believe in biology, but you're not going to be banned for using TERF in a non-derogatory way so don't worry

[–]literallyjustvibing[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

okay good to know. lesbians are so abused and clowned on everywhere online i didn't want to come into one of the rare safe spaces and make everyone uncomfortable. so i will use it but be careful